Archive for the ‘marriage’ Category

Paganism – ancient and current

August 9, 2014

Speaking of Rome in the 1st century:


Marriage had fallen into deeper and deeper contempt. The freedom of single life was preferred by both sexes. Seneca went so far as to affirm that marriage was only contracted in order that adultery might afford additional charm, and declared that whoever had no love affairs was to be despised. Unnatural vices prevailed . . . In such a state of society, even if marriages were celebrated, the children were few in number. They were not welcomed when they appeared. As there was no sense of the sacredness of human life infanticide was commonly practiced. The destruction of unborn children was even more practised than infanticide, and not only did moral disintegration ensue in the destruction of family life, but the very foundations of the state were undermined in the decrease of the native population.

David R. Breed, quoted in the Undercover Revolution by Iain Murray, Banner of Truth Publishers pp.73-74

Remind you of anywhere?

I don’t think Christ said a lot about abortion or even about single sex marriage

May 10, 2011

Some of the fundamentalist Christians seem to be performing or practising a kind of Christianity that I don’t think would be recognised by Christ. I don’t think Christ said a lot about abortion or even about single sex marriage. I don’t know where all these Christian doctrines came from but that had nothing to do with what Christ ever said in the Bible.

John Cleese, comedy actor, in a BBC Radio Merseyside interview. source

Well John, try the commandment, ‘Thou shalt not kill’  (that covers the murder of unborn human beings). I think you’ll find that Jesus was well in favour with the commandments as a cursory reading of the sermon on the mount would make plain. As for same-sex marriage, try Jesus’ words recorded in the gospel of Matthew (19.4-5)

4 He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”

That ‘male’ and ‘female’ thing, John, is a bit of a clue on Jesus’ view on same-sex marriage, as well as the words ‘man’ and ‘wife’.

Have you not read, John? As you said yourself, “What Christ said in the Bible was profoundly important but it doesn’t mean that I approve of a lot of the people who practise Christianity.”

Marriage is good for health

September 8, 2009

People who get divorced are more likely to suffer health problems including heart disease and cancer, even if they go on to remarry, a study has shown.

Divorce and widowhood have a long-term negative effect on physical wellbeing that is only marginally ameliorated if the person finds a new partner.

The stress and financial uncertainty of separation can continue to take their toll on our bodies decades after the Decree Absolute comes through, the research indicates.

Divorced people have 20 per cent more chronic health conditions such as heart disease, diabetes or cancer than married people, according to the study of 8,652 people aged between 51 and 61 by Professor Linda Waite of the University of Chicago.

They also have 23 per cent more mobility problems, such as difficulty climbing stairs or walking short distances.

But while the health benefits of marriage – which are believed to stem from financial security and the positive impact of wives on their husbands’ diets and lifestyles – are well known, the new study shows that they are significantly reduced the second and third times around.

People who divorce and then remarry still have 12 per cent more chronic problems and 19 per cent more mobility problems than those who have been continuously married, the analysis showed.

“Among the currently married, those who have ever been divorced show worse health on all dimensions. Both the divorced and widowed who do not remarry show worse health on all dimensions,” said Prof Waite, a sociologist.

The research, which was carried out with Mary Elizabeth Hughes of Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore, also reaffirmed the results of recent studies showing the relative ill health of people who remain unmarried into late middle age.

People who never married have 12 per cent more mobility limitations and 13 per cent more depressive symptoms than their married counterparts, although they are no more likely to suffer from heart disease or cancer.


If I were married to you

September 8, 2009

Lady Astor, MP: Winston, if I were married to you, I’d put poison in your coffee.

Sir Winston Churchill: Nancy, if you were my wife, I’d drink it.

Marriage – a Revelation!

September 8, 2009

It is possible to be a fool and ignorant of the fact; but not if you’re married.

Differences between men and women

September 8, 2009

A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man.

A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn’t. A man marries a woman expecting that she won’t change, and she does.

There are two times when a man doesn’t understand a woman- before and after marriage.

A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband. A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all.

A woman has the last word in any argument. Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.

Any married man should forget his mistakes

September 8, 2009

Any married man should forget his mistakes. There’s no use in two people remembering the same thing.

After spending time with Eve, Adam was walking in
the Garden with God.
Adam told God how much the woman meant to him
and how blessed he was to have her. Adam began to
ask questions about her.

Adam: Lord, Eve is beautiful.
Why did you make her so beautiful?
God: So you will always want to look at her.

Adam: Lord, her skin is so soft.
Why did you make her skin so soft?
God: So you will always want to touch her.

Adam: She always smells so good.
Lord, why did you make her smell so good?
God: So you will always want to be near her.

Adam: That’s wonderful Lord, and I don’t want
to seem ungrateful,
but why did you make her so stupid?
God: So she would love you

Good parenting means a good marriage

August 19, 2009

The healthiest families I know are ones in which the mother and father have a strong, loving relationship between themselves. . . . This strong primary relationship seems to breed security in the children.

Dolores Curran, Traits of a Healthy Family, 1983, p.36

From 1987-1991, Curran worked as a Family Resource Consultant for Ireland, giving lectures around the country. She currently serves on the advisory boards of Practical Parenting Education and Family Information Services. Curran and her husband James raised three children and make their home in Littleton, Colorado.

The greatest thing you parents can do for your children is to love each other.

Dr Ben Salk, family psychologist, in Rob Parsons, 60 Minute Father, p.105

Commitment phobia

August 4, 2009

In a recent, week-long survey of the downsizing phenomenon in the US, the New York Times discovered that there was what it called a new ‘mantra’ in corporations. ‘We are no longer able or willing to guarantee your future,’ the mantra goes. ‘You are responsible for your own career and your own destiny. We will provide you with opportunities to develop your skills and your experience, but employability not employment is the best we can offer.’ We are, in effect, all mercenaries now, on hire whatever the cause, useful as long as, and only as long as, we can perform.

‘In such a world, it is wise and prudent not to make long-term plans or invest in the distant future; not to get tied down too firmly to any particular place, group or cause, even an image of oneself, because one might find oneself not just unanchored and drifting but without an anchor altogether; it is prudent to be guided in today’s choices not by the wish to control the future, but by the reluctance to mortgage it. In other words, “to be provident” means now, more often than not, to avoid commitment. To be free to move when opportunity knocks. To be free to leave when it stops knocking.’

 Zygmunt Bauman (not, I think, aproving of the sentiment of non-commitment, rather narrating them)